Proverbs 18:17 – “The first to speak in court sounds right—until the cross-examination begins.”
It’s easy to assume we know the truth when we’ve only heard one side of a story. A well-argued position can seem convincing—until we hear another perspective that sheds new light. Whether it’s a theological debate, a disagreement between friends, or even gossip, this proverb reminds us to seek wisdom before making judgments.
During my theological studies, I encountered this firsthand. I would read a book presenting one side of an issue, and it seemed completely convincing. Then I’d read a book from the opposing view, and suddenly, that perspective made just as much sense. I quickly realized the importance of thoughtful discernment—of weighing both sides and seeking truth rather than being swayed by the first argument I heard.
This principle applies to our relationships as well. How often does someone share their frustration about another person, and we immediately take their side—only to later realize we didn’t have the full picture? Instead, we are called to be “quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry” (James 1:19).
Before forming an opinion, pause and ask yourself: Have I truly heard both sides? Am I listening with discernment, or just believing what sounds right at first? Humbly seek wisdom, not just compelling arguments that strengthens a preconceived notion.